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    Default Sane Living Monday: Busy, Busy Busy

    Share your thoughts and comments!

    You can read the blog entry here: http://www.everydaysuperwoman.com/blog/?p=6

    What is necessary in your day for your emotional and physical well-being? What in your life brings you joy? What can you do for yourself that will make everything go smoother? Where can you slow down and enjoy the small moments in your day? How can you re-think your busy days?

    Busy can be a wonderful thing, the key is to find the right busy for you. Have you found it?
    "I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do."

    - Leonardo Da Vinci

    "I am seeking, I am striving, I am in it with all my heart."

    - Vincent Van Gogh


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    It is a balancing act that can be difficult. I take the good with the bad.
    When it overwhelms me I have to make a list. In truth I am trying to get more done that what I need to do.The list keeps me prioritized and I can see the stuff that isn't really needing to get done is basically not that important. If it is broken down into steps for a job I hate I can just bite off enough to get a little bit done and then go do something else.
    I desperately want the office to be more organized and look better. I hate trudging through the filing stuff. I am trying to separate into business,and home. I do not have the room I need on my desk and want to move everything over to his old desk area. I could whip it into shape in a week- but I hate doing it so much that I have choses to do it one day a week because it drains my happiness.
    On the other hand I could work in the yard all day long, seven days a week- but I can't because nothing else will get done.
    I think my busy days are the days that I designate as "go into town and shop days". I drive into town to shop sometimes at three to four stores, eat lunch and then drive home.I am gone for what seems like hours, the little one is cranky ( but still yells " one more store, Mom?"), dinner is not ready and the house is in a stall since I was not there for part of the day.The whole trip is due to distance. I live far enough out that I have to make the trip count not only for gas purposes but the time I spend in the car in transit. There is no rethinking that until my life changes. I think if I get a job all the parameters will change and I can stop off and pick up what ever I need when I need it and not try to make a one day a week shopping trip.
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    I know what you mean, Karis--my friend calls this &quot;overachiever&#039;s syndrome.&quot; It would be a good job if you&#039;d spent 10 hours at it, but now you&#039;ve spent 30...and although you&#039;ve done a beautiful job, you didn&#039;t need to go that far.

    I need to ask myself &quot;just how important would this be if it didn&#039;t get done?&quot;

    I also have a terrible tendency to discount my time. We didn&#039;t hire a caterer to do the bazaar because we decided we could do it &quot;cheaper&quot; and &quot;simpler&quot;--which was right, but it cost us big time in time and sanity.

    I really do love to put together events. I normally have a great time doing it, even though it&#039;s busy. This one went too far, and it wasn&#039;t fun anymore--and I felt like I had completely given my life over. I will probably do the event again, but I need to not let it take my life over.
    "I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do."

    - Leonardo Da Vinci

    "I am seeking, I am striving, I am in it with all my heart."

    - Vincent Van Gogh


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    Zip, I enjoyed reading your article and some of the points really hit home.

    During the last couple of weeks, I&#039;ve been thinking about why I&#039;m in a same predicament as last year when I made an effort to reduce my committments this year. Why am I frazzled, snappy, doing things at the last minute, and not taking care of myself Why is it a struggle to manage the house? The answer is that I mistakingly think I have more time so I take on new things when in reality, I never had that time to begin with. I often do take on new things unconsciously and then later on ask myself &quot;What possesed me to agree to that?&quot;. It&#039;s hard to watch another mom who has taken on too much struggle so I come in and think I&#039;m &quot;rescuing&quot; the situation. What she really needs is to learn about setting limits and managing perfection as much as I do. But refusing to help goes against my nature. It&#039;s disloyal somehow. Also, I know you all feel the same as I do in that I want to make sure that I&#039;m doing my part. It&#039;s just that the &quot;part&quot; is not well-defined.

    DMIL, who is 68, and I talk about how when she was my age a women&#039;s identity was tied to how well she kept house, cooked meals and kept everyone looking good. At least that&#039;s what the TV showed. Not so today especially around here. :lolpoint: Our identity is much more broad and hard to nail down. I think that&#039;s one of the reasons why when we give and give in one area and neglect other areas we feel like we failed. We don&#039;t have realistic boundaries.

    I need to ask myself &quot;just how important would this be if it didn&#039;t get done?&quot;
    I think this is a great question. Do we really need to go to the levels that we do for a school event, home event, project at work? Does everything HAVE to be original, creative, spectacular? What would happen if we took it down a few notches in some areas of our lives? Would people think less of us? Maybe or maybe they would admire our ability to set priorities. Should we care that much about what people think? Would the community suffer? Maybe initially but it would eventually adapt as they all do. I&#039;m not saying that we aren&#039;t a key asset but maybe things would keep going even if we took a backseat for a while. I&#039;m learning little by little where I need to focus my efforts, both for joy and sanity, and where I can throttle back and let others shine. It&#039;s hard not to defend my doing less but I think it&#039;s important because it gets in the way of finding balance. It&#039;s also hard not to relinquish control over to the overachievement monster. Everyone around here seems to have succumbed. Some people are just naturally on the go all the time. They seem to be happy that way. When did this way of life become the norm for everybody?

    I could just keep writing on and on about this topic but I guess I should make a point. Being on the go is energizing and fun for a while but it&#039;s hard for me to step off that treadmill. I have not found the right level of busy. I need one guilt-free day a week where I do nothing productive. Once I have this, I think I&#039;ll be close.

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